general problems of the 2004 Acura TL

I bought a used 2004 Acura Tl that has run fine for 6 months so far. Just last night, when stationary and trying to move forward my transmission started slipping, stalling out and ramping up to 5000 rpm. After a green light with cars behind me and I can't move an inch. I take my car to a transmissions specialist to learn that there is coolant mixing with my transmission fluid. There was a NHTSA recall on the automatic transmissions for Acura Tl's in 2004. Recall number 04v176000 . The transmissions specialist said that in 23 years working he couldn't remember the last time he saw this problem in a Honda, he thought they called back those coolers. Anyway, calling my local Acura dealer, they just looked up my VIN and told me there is no recall assigned to my car, and therefore they can't do the recall work. Yet I have the exact problem described in the recall! I read that manufacturers are only required to do recall work for 10 years but they might do older work (14 yrs) in this case since there are so many old cars still on the road, or if it poses a risk to the road (which in this case it certainly does). I'm looking at a $2600 fix that I feel should be addressed by the manufacturer and I'm being blown off. 'on some vehicles, certain operating conditions can result in heat build-up between the countershaft and secondary shaft second gears in the automatic transmission, eventually leading to gear tooth chipping or gear breakage. '.

Ongoing problems went to dealer told was fine. Experience leaks and noise issues was told no problem. Back to dealer was told something wrong with steering rack , power steering pump and leak somewhere. Vehicle had several recalls in past for same problems.