Headlight Switch problems of the 2014 Dodge Grand Caravan

I pulled out of a well lighted gas station at night and my instrument panel lights come on automatically so I assumed my headlights were also on . As I proceeded to rt 50 and made the right turn, it was pitch black except for the dash lights which were fully lit . The problem was I couldn't find the switch to turn on the headlights because with the headlights off, the switch wasn't illuminated. I was now in a serious panic. I was moving slow but couldn't see the road or where I was in the road! I finally came to a complete stop. I was afraid someone was going to hit me from behind. My wife and I could have been killed! I finally found the switch after about a minute. This has also been a problem while driving at dusk and the dash lights come on automatically and as it gets darker you don't realize your headlights aren't on. One time a friend was following us and called us on the cell phone to let us know our lights weren't on! note: we drove a 2000 caravan for 14 years and knew to turn on the headlights when we couldn't see the instrument panel. Same with all my veichles before that. We've been conditioned , that's how it works.