Transmission Not Engage problems of the 2008 Honda FIT

My clutch went out twice in under 17,000 miles. Driven a manual transmission for about 20 years. First clutch went at 6011 miles (January 30, 2008). Clutch would not engage on a busy highway in la. I was lucky that I did not have any vehicles behind me. Honda replaced the clutch, the flywheel, the pressure plate, and both bearings under the heading of "goodwill". They claimed it was user wear. At 6000 miles? the service consultant said that it was the worst worn clutch he had ever seen. . . It was "blue". Clutch began slipping again at 17,800 miles. Took it into the dealership and they again blamed me for the wear. Could not tell me why it was my fault. The clutch disc showed uneven wear. When I asked if they inspected the tires to show that the car was "operated properly" they said that the use of the clutch did not effect the tires. Was told by the service manager that he sent pictures in to a Honda rep. When I asked to see the pictures 7 days later I was sent one partial image of my clutch, which showed obvious unusual wear. The image was time-stamped 6 days after I was told the photo(s) of the car were inspected by an american Honda rep. Honda denies any responsibility on their faulty machine even after a case manager said it was "unlikely" my fault, but "possible". I could grow a third arm from my forehead. . . It is "possible" but "unlikely". Honda wants me to pay for the repairs and tear down costs. I do not merely want the car repaired. This is not an issue of money. If I am on the highway and a third clutch goes again, with my two kids in the car, injury or even death is possible. After 14 days of discussion and no car, or one even supplied, american Honda agreed to reopen the case after notice of arbitration and a potential lawsuit. Still waiting for an answer.