Steering Wheel Vibrate problems of the 2013 Honda Odyssey

Original owner of 2013 Honda Odyssey, noticed significant steering wheel vibration at 35k miles while going down or at highway speeds while slowing down unexpectedly. It made me grab the steering wheel harder to try to steady the wheels so we don't drive off the cliff. I believe it poses a danger as it creates a situation where such steering wheel vibration and tires vibration can cause a dangerous situation in which the control over vehicle could be lost along with lives of those in the car. I have just replaced the tires, which was not the cause of the vibration. The car is in good standing as all recommended services were completed timely. When contacted the local Honda dealer, they said that rotors needs to be resurfaced. But as I am reading on this site and others, this could be an endless and expensive recurrent service. This vehicle is designed to be a family vehicle, therefore it shouldn't be a standard when rotors come out of functionality as soon as vehicle is out of factory.

We bought this vehicle brand new - single owner car equiped with genuine Honda parts. The front rotors quickly and prematurely ware down causing severe braking and steering issues, mainly hard vibrations of the steering wheel and it feels like the whole car shakes and you could easily lose control if not having both hands on the steering wheel. The problem usually occurs or is most noticeable during longer road trips (after ~120 miles) once the rotors are hot and the degree of the problem is definitely worse as you drive down (decline) or up (incline) and it does not subside rather gets worse if pressure is applied to brakes going down hill. Rotors should last much longer than 16k miles. We are cautious, safe drivers and have not put a lot of miles on this car and drive mostly highway and interstate roads. The dealer temporarily fixed the problem by rotating/sanding down the rotors at 15,823 miles but now with only 31, 287 miles on it, the problem has resurfaced with the vibrations slowing getting more frequent and stronger to the point the whole steering wheel column shakes. It is very scary as the van "thumps thumps thumps" and the steering wheel shakes rapidly going down inclines and/or whilst braking. Now the dealer is saying the rotors shouldn't be rotated again and are no good, at only 31k miles, and need replaced.