Brake Disc Pads problems of the 2002 Hyundai Santa Fe

Grinding and other odd noises when braking in my 2002 sante fe. Purchased the car new and I have replaced the hydraulic brakes once a year since I purchased it. I have complained to two different Hyundai dealerships and to hydundai motor corporation. Itself and was told that I must be a brake rider and city driver. Either of these is true. I have never had to replace brakes every 8-10,000 miles on any car I have ever owned. I was told a complete, full brake job must be done each time because the rotors are so thin that there is little margin for error of over resurfacing. This could cause a very serious situation. I was told by one service manager from one Hyundai dealership that he would never allow his wife and children in this particular car with turned down rotors and that he would rather lay out the hundreds of dollars on constantly replacing the front brakes for piece of mind. I was spoken to like I was an idiot by Hyundai customer service line when I complained and my concerns of an inferior braking system were ignored. I have just had my fifth set of front brakes put on the car and was actually told by a new service manager that between him and I, that the brake pads were made for a small vehicle not an SUV of this size, and that this car was known for brake problems. This only confirmed what I tried to explain to Hyundai as was also told to me by two other private party repair centers. I now refuse to allow Hyundai to charge me almost double the price to replace their inferior, cheap braking system. They apparently put cheap, horrible wear and tear parts in their car, so you will need to replace them very regularly. Resulting in them making a bundle and then some back on their OH so great bumper to bumper warranty. I actually saw their brake pad and it is small.