Manual Transmission Column Shift problems of the 2011 Ford F-150

S19s07 / NHTSA recall 19v-075 is causing failure on transmission with no issues. I found online that my 2011 f150 was due for the 19s07 recall 19v-075 or the intermittent failure of the output speed sensor (oss). This recall has to do with the automatic transmission and "an unintended downshift into first gear can cause an abrupt wheel speed reduction, which could cause the rear tires to slide until the vehicle speed slows down. " I have driven and owned the truck since brand new and it had 16 miles on it. I've never had a transmission repair or problem out of it since I've had it. However, not wanting to risk having an issue, I took it in to the local dealer for this recall, they then updated the powertrain control module with software to prevent this. I received the truck back and drove it home. The following morning, I started the engine, pulled the column shifter into reverse, and the orange light for the shifter dial on the dash disappeared. Nothing happened at first and then it suddenly slammed into reverse. The shifter light never lit up until I put it back in to park and the orange shifter light reappeared. I then pulled the shifter lever down in to drive and again, the orange shifter light on the dash disappeared and the transmission did not go into gear for a moment and then suddenly slammed into drive. Again, with no signal on the dash that it was even in a gear, drive, park, etc. Took it back to the local Ford dealer explaining the situation and a day later they called to tell me that the transmission has a faulty transmission lead frame connector, would not be covered under warranty, and would cost me close to $1,000 to be repaired. I refused the repair that was now going to cost me caused by the recall and software update. Again, the truck had no issues before taking it in to bill utter Ford for the transmission recall and software update.